Why you are not actually slacking on your goals ? Putting my New Year's resolution in action and being kind to myself
Don't make your goals a burden; being kind to myself |
After spending most of last year in Goa, We were back in my beloved Pune, coming back is awesome and feels good.
Yes, I have been focusing on my life (I have been away from this blog for a while), But I am already working on my goals.
I think it is important to keep things in perspective and work your ideas to reality.
Failing is sometimes more of a feedback rather than only an outcome.
The Thing that has converted me...
Goals can be flexible - @Kiss_toff |
I think goals are powerful. But then how come we don't fulfil them.
I think life happens. I have learnt to see goals more as reminders and signpost to help one move towards their destination rather than an obligation.
Just having them around help us deal with uncertainty. We start working on ideas and we keep things in motion.
The problem is when we get fixated on them (goals). We treat them like a prophecy that has to become real in the way we imagine it.
The idea that Goals can be flexible and can be used strategically to deal with uncertain circumstances is the idea I hold to.
It has been a kind of religious experience. Sometimes we are stuck because we need to change our ideas about things.
Bringing in Experiences to deal with Uncertainty
Check this Quote on Uncertainty |
I learnt that multitasking was a bad idea while reading self help books and also from experience.
I think chunking activities down is far more effective. If I personally can't work on these activities I begin by planning for it.
Once I flesh out a proper strategy or recipe to work on, I start working on it.
Another thing I learnt was getting in people who are experienced in what you want to achieve. Like a coach or a teacher.
You don't need to work on your success by yourself. It does require spending a bit of time or money. But my experience has shown me it helps.
I mostly expect at least 70% of the promises to be delivered for it to be a successful venture.
After completing one chunk of activity I move on to the next.
Listening to yourself
Don't ignore your inner voice | Check this post on Introspection |
Sometimes we slack a bit or may be consciously kill a resolution we have. May be we need to listen to ourselves a bit.
Are we feeling lazy or discouraged? Is the goal bringing in a lot of change? Is the change too much to deal with?
Just spending some 'Me-time' can surely help. With a new baby boy, My wife and me have been quite busy.
So I decided to not overburden myself and perform badly at work or blogging. I use my time to practice focusing and trying observe and learn from people around me.
I don't see this as a time wasted, Yes it is a detour but one that will help focus better on my goals by reflection or crafting some plan.
In conclusion
I must say that challenging ourselves is important. One way we can do that is by actually trying to work on our own aspirations and goals.
Life happens and we must enjoy it (by choosing too). Our choices and our perceptions are completely ours and so we must not waste it.
Either we learn something from it or we achieve it, Getting discouraged doesn't need to be the only option.
Choose better and wish you success. May you succeed in your goals. Thank you for stopping by. I hope you liked this post.
Ciao!